How Should We Word Our Wedding Invitations?
We are paying for everything in our wedding with no help from our parents, except my fiances parents are paying for the rehearsal dinner. My parents are very poor (and divorced), and his parents don’t have a lot of money, but like I said they are paying for the rehearsal dinner. I don’t want either of our parents to feel bad for not helping, so should we still include them on our invitations? Or is that not necessary? What is a good way of wording it? Thank you in advance!
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Whoever is hosting the event should be on the invitation. If you and your future hubby are the only ones paying then it should only include your names. His parent’s names would appear on the invitation for the rehearsal dinner. Of course if you think it will hurt their feelings then include everyone.
So if you chose just your names you might say:
Ms. Claire Anne Lowery and Mr. Mark William Carlson
Request the pleasure of your company at their marriage or Invite you to share in their joy and love at their wedding. Saturday, The Sixth of June….etc
If you want to include your parents, since your parents are divorced and his aren’t, the invitation might start: Mr. and Mrs. David Spencer Carlson together with Ms. Jean Vaughan and Mr. Paul Lowery request…
Before they met, their strength was of one
Through marriage, they will experience
the strengh of much more than two
BRIDE
and
GROOM
together with their parents
invite you to witness and celebrate
the joining of their lives
on DAY
YEAR
at TIME
LOCATION
ADDRESS
CITY, STATE
You can check out more options herehttp://verseit.com/index.cfm
We included both parents just to honor them:
Mr. Christopher Thompson
and Ms.Charlene Smith
request the pleasure of your company
at the marriage of their daughter
Gillian Emily Thompson
to
Michael John Jones
son of
Mr. & Mrs. John Jones
on Saturday, the eleventh of July
two thousand and nine
at eleven o’clock in the morning
Ceremony Hall
144 Some Road
Any City, State
Reception to follow
or you could do something like this:
Gillian Thompson and Michael Jones
together with their parents
request the pleasure of your company
at their wedding
on Saturday, the eleventh of July
two thousand and nine
at eleven o’clock in the morning
Ceremony Hall
144 Some Road
Any City, State
Reception to follow
Mr. xxxxx (your husband to be name) son of Mr. & Mrs. xxxxx and Miss Jesss271 Smith, daughter of Mr & Mrs. Smith have the honor to invite you to celebrate our wedding ceremony with us on Sunday August 23,2009 at 8 p.m. at
St Jesss271 church (address). Dinner at (address and time)…will follow after wedding ceremony.
We hope you will be able to come and join us for this joyous and happy occasion. Then add a separate card and envelope for RSVP.
Note : Make it unique and informal (use your imagination and creativity to make it unique and memorable).
You can also have two separate invitation, one for the ceremony only and one for both the ceremony and celebration. You don’t need to put any of your parents’ names on the invitation .
The invitation to the rehearsal dinner should have his parents name (whoever is paying and inviting) …Mr & Mrs. xxxxx has the honor
to invite you to come to our children John and Jesss271 wedding rehearsal dinner on (date) at (address) at (time). We hope you you can come and join us. Please RSVP.
I hope this will help you.
You don’t have to include either set of parents in the invitations because they are not “hosting” the wedding, however, if you still want to make them feel included, you could word it like this…
Together with their parents
Julia Elizabeth Smith
and
Jack Mark Joshnson
request the honor of your presence
at their marriage
on Sunday, the fourth of October
two thousand fourteen
at six o’clock in the evening
Trinity United Methodist Church
313 Main Street
You shouldn’t have to ask this question. The custom is that the bride’s parents are giving their daughter away in marriage and want the entire world to help them celebrate (or at least as many of their friends and family who can attend.) I don’t think it has anything to do with who is paying for which plate of food. Send the invitations out according to tradition unless your point is to advertise to the world that you are paying your own way.
“Together, Isabella Swan and Edward Cullen, together with their parents, invite you to share in the festivities of their marriage …”
Some more examples are listed on this website:http://www.invitationconsultants.com/sam…
You can still add your parents in there to make them feel better, but don’t have them do the inviting on the invitation because that is appropriate when they are paying.
Hi. To be honest, I really think the tradition of who is “paying” being listed on the invite should go away.
There are many instances where families cannot contribute (such as yours)….but they are still happy and excited for you! They should be listed. You can go with the more traditional wording with everyone’s name listed, or you can go with this more popular version:
Together with our families
Melissa Jo Thompson
and
Brian Allan Jenkins
request the honor of your presence
etc., etc., etc.
It’s not necessary, but it is polite since they did raise you. My parents were unable to help out with our wedding, but my husband’s parents did. The way we worded our invitations was
“Together with their parents
Bride Name
and
Groom Name…”
My husband’s brother and his wife had their wedding paid for fully by both sets of parents yet did not include them on the invitation. I thought that was really rude.
Come what may, you should have your parents kept at high priority. So they would feel great if you invite them to the wedding.
Family matters are bound to happen. Since you can they are divorced. You can have a formal invitation for them. If they wish to come, they would, or else if they think they would feel uneasy, then they would skip the ceremony.
So need not force but invite them too.
Parents like the “bragging rights” of being mentioned. But you do need to word it properly – - also, the rehearsal has no bearing on the wedding invite so I’d suggest you do what my fiance & I did:
Jane Doe
daughter of Ms. Mary Jones and Mr. John Doe
and
Joe Smith
son of Mr & Mrs Jerry Smith
request the honor of your presence at their marriage
blah blah blah
Of course you include both sets of parents’ names – it has nothing to do with who is paying for what.
Just use traditional wording -
Lisa Marie,
daughter of Frank and Helen Smith,
and
Mark William,
son of Henry and Susan Green,
request the honour of your presence….
this is what we are using:
Because you have shared in their lives by your friendship and love
Bob and Jane Doe
together with
John and Jane Doe
invite you to share in the joy and celebration of the marriage of their children
Suszie Anne Doe
and
David Doo Doe
on Friday, the twenty-second of July, two thousand and eleven.
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Stoney Creek, Ontario
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I phrased mine:
Father and Mother (of the bride)
Request your presence at the marriage of their daughter
My name
To
Future husband’s name
Son of Father and mother of the groom
at/in the ____church or hotel
on Saturday, Date
at 10:00 AM